Guy-A and Girl-B meet on one of the dating aps on Facebook.
After chatting for a little while Guy-A asked Girl-B out for coffee. Girl-B says she doesn't date. Dating is like sport. Girl-B does not do sport or games.
In reality Girl-B was waiting for someone, (Guy-C), something that was never going to happen, but for her emotional growth she had to experience it. She was seeking a happiness that seemed to elude her.
She finally realised what was going on with Guy-C, (or the fact that it wasn't him she was pining after), and was able to move on.
During the 12 months that Girl-B was driving herself insane by analysing the antics of Guy-C, Guy-A paid her compliments and asked her out several times.
Girl-B was used to the fact that people had misguided notions of who she was under the bitch exterior and what she looked like.
Girl-B consented to going out with Guy-A, in the purpose to burst the bubble of his perception of her.
What happened after that was a bit odd... but they kept on going out.
Girl-B had no idea where she stood with Guy-A as nothing had actually happened between them in that way. It started to do her head in.
She emailed him asking him if he liked her as he was sending mixed signals. He explained that he was very jaded after the end of his marriage and was still trying to work out if he did want to get involved with someone again.
She was pissed off. Why did he keep asking her out and paying her compliments to then say he didn't know if he wanted a relationship or not?
Friends gave advice of go out with other guys, be patient and just have fun. All good advice, but Girl-B couldn't make any of it sit right. She thought she'd been more than patient, she was having fun, that was the problem, and there was no way loyal Girl-B would start dating other guys and confuse the issue even more.
Three months passed.
After a particularly stressful week in her life, Girl-B attended work drinks and had several wines more than she should have. In her dark mood her frustration of the situation with Guy-A compounded. She deleted him off Facebook.
The next morning she knew that she had to address the issue so she emailed him. She told him why she liked him and asked him to be honest about how he felt.
The next day he replied... it's not you it's me, I'd just like to be friends.
If it's you and not me why did you chase if you really don't want to be in another relationship?
Even though I now know where I stand, I feel like yet again I've done something wrong. My rational self knows I haven't, my inner child thinks differently.
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